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It's time to transition my 7 wk old out of my bed, crib or bassinet?
I am a new mom with a beautiful 7 week old little girl. Since we got home from the hospital we have never been able to get her to sleep anywhere besides my chest. She cries if she is put down sleepy-but-awake, she cries if I put her down asleep and then she wakes up, so she has been sleeping on my chest all night long since about 1 week old. My DH and I are desperate now for a better night's sleep, and we are ready to transition her, but don't know if we should choose the crib or bassinet? I am currently breastfeeding her and I feed her in her own room, so I tend to think it may be better to put her in her crib. Also, then I wouldn't have to transition her twice, since it would be right into the crib. BUT... I worry that if I put her in her crib then I will sleep through her feeding cues and I will wake when she is screaming starving and a difficult child to feed. Putting her in the bassinet would eliminate this worry. I do have a very fancy video monitor, so maybe I would hear her, I just don't know how soundly I will sleep with her out of the room (maybe too soundly to hear her beginning little wimpers of hunger). I would like to put her in the bassinet, but I am worried, that this will be very hard (on DH and I) since she will cry horribly for many nights before she is completely settled and comfortable in sleeping by herself. Also, then when she is too big, we will have to transition her out of the bassinet and into the crib. Where ever I do end up putting her I do plan on sitting by her (for the first few nights and then moving the chair farther away every couple of nights) and gently patting her belly or rubbing her head and talking sweetly to her to get her to calm down. The other thing is that she is only 7 weeks old, is this too early to try to get her to "tough it out" and sleep alone? I am planning on definitely feeding/changing her every 1.5 hours if she is crying that long (*godihopenot*), that way I know I am not starving/torturing the child if she is crying. She currently usually has 1 long nap (3-5 hours) followed by being awake for a short time (30-60 minutes) and then another short nap (2-3 hours). She also has gastric reflux so the doctor wants her vertical for 30 minutes after meals, which will be hard to put her down "while sleepy, yet awake." Usually she is conked out after the 30 minutes.
you have a pretty good idea of what to do, and if i were you, i would put her in a crib. she will outgrow that bassinett much quicker than you think. you don't want her to get used to that and then have a difficult time transitioning to the crib. if you are worried you won't hear her cry, then you might want to set up the crib in your room first, and then move it into her room when you are ready. she is definitely to young to cry it out. i am a fan of that method, as it worked well with my first daughter. i used that method when she was about 4 months. however, she slept through the night at around 6 weeks old. on the rare occasions that she would wake in the night, i would check to see if she was hungry, cold/hot, wet/poopy. if there was nothing wrong with her, i would let her cry it out. a well rested mommy is a happy mommy! she never cried more than 10 minutes or so.
With my son he also had/has reflux and the told me to life the head end of his bed. So we rolled a towel and put it under the mattress. This keeps them from being totally flat which with reflux is worse. I also know with my son the more he saw me the more he cried. He was not very old when I learned he would cry until he could not see me any more. I would lay him down and he would cry but once I was out the door he stopped. I would go straight to the crib with the monitor you should be fine. I am amazed at how well I wake up to my sons cries. My husbands phone can ring and he can leave and come back and I will sleep through it. But my son makes a small little noise and I am awake. Good luck and I know it is tough, maybe get a sound machine or something to go in the crib that makes the heartbeat sound. If she likes your chest she probably hears your heart and is used to that from when she was in your womb.
Your daughter is definitely way too young to cry it out. She's not even two months old, if she cries it's because she needs something. The easiest way to transition a baby to a crib or bassinet is to have them spend plenty of time there during the day. That way they get used to it while you're around and it's not a strange place they find themselves in at night. That said, I'm a huge fan of co-sleeping. Both my older kids slept in the bed with me for several months before they transitioned to the crib. At almost 3 1/2 and 22 months neither one has a problem sleeping in their own bed. I've never had any problems with them whatsoever. They're confident, independent kids and I know co-sleeping helped with that. The safety and security of sleeping with me while they were little let them know that I would always be there when they needed me.
At that age crying it out isn't a good thing, If your daughter crys it's because she needs you. I always used a crib with my kids so I didn't have to switch once they got older. If your worried about not waking up, you could always put the crib or bassinet beside your bed untill she is comfortable sleeping by herself.
Thank you for your replies! So I will not do the CIO technique, atleast not yet. After reading some of your replies I looked it up and you are all right, it is too early. I should have thought about the age criteria. I read about this a lot, but never did I see anywhere it said a "minimum age" to do it at, so I guess that was my ignorance. So my "bassinet" is actually a "newborn napper station" that is attached to my Pack-n-Play, so I may just remove that and put her in the pack-n-play that is next to my bed (my crib is way to hard to assemble to take it down and move it into my room). That way atleast she is going from one flat surface to another (the pack-n-play to the crib), when it is time to transition her out of our room. When Evelyn does cry when you put her down she cries more when you are out of the room, and her cries intensify as you leave her alone, but usually they arent the blood curdling cries, usually it is a one of the fuss-cries, that you can tell she just is trying to get attention. I also, am a big fan of co-sleeping, but we are only in a queen bed and if I put her in the middle, I am too afraid my husband will roll on her or twitch and hit her. He twiches really strongly in his sleep and has hit me in the face before on accident. So, as much as I LOVE co-sleeping, it is not a good option for us, we need to change this.So I need to get her into her pack-n-play to sleep, but how do I do it if I don't let her cry it out?Simple patting her back and talking sweet to her when she makes silly little wimpers and then pick her up and settle her if she really cries? Everytime I put her down when she is asleep or when she is sleepy-but awake she cries and flips out about 15-20 minutes later... How do I get her to a real sleep when she is in the pack-n-play?
my 6 week old got too used to sleeping in her swing during the day, and had a tough time sleeping in her playpen at night. i took down the swing, and set up our extra playpen in the living room so i could keep a watchful eye on her during the day. i was afraid to leave her in my room (she sleeps there at night, in the playpen) all day because of my dogs. they are extremely protective of her, and i worried that one of them might try to jump in there with her. having her stay in the playpen all day has made a tremendous difference, and i'm happy to report that she only wakes up once during the night; around 4 am to drink a bottle, then she goes right back to sleep. if you don't want to take down the crib and put it in your room, then i suggest getting an extra playpen to set up in your room for nightime. when you are ready, transition her to the crib in her room. you don't need the one with all the attachments on top that you already have. a basic model will run you around $45 at walmart, target, etc. good luck with this!
i'm not a fan of the co-sleeping either. it would be very dangerous in my situation. i'm a violent sleeper, so i kick and hit during the night. my husband complains on a regular basis, claiming that i beat him up in my sleep, lol. also, 2 of my dogs sleep in my bed, and they have been doing it so long that it's impossible to kick them out. when we do try to kick them off, they get right back up in a matter of minutes.
I already have a pack-n-play in my bedroom and I want her to sleep in there. I just dont know how to get her off of my chest and into the pack-n-play and have her sleep.Any suggestions?
Just be persistant. With my son sometimes it took a few times of holding him then putting him down. Talk to her and try and get her to relax. Maybe practice during the day when she is awake and happy her being in the pack and play so she can see that it is okay. Do your or did you swaddle? Sometimes that helps because they feel tight and not so lost in a big open place that is the bed. Try getting a toy or sound machine that my play music or a heart beat. This could help soothe her since she listens to your heart when you hold her.
You might want to try getting a co-sleeper that attaches to the side of your bed. That way you know she'll be safe, she'll be close enough that she won't be too upset, but she can get used to sleeping somewhere other than your chest.When we had our first baby we only had a queen sized bed and it definitely was more difficult. My husband has insomnia from his PTSD and he has to taking sleeping pills. I always had to sleep with my baby on the outside of the mattress and that was a little scary. Before our son was born we got a king sized bed and it made a huge difference!