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Mom, what does the "f" word really means?

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I have a curious 8 year old daughter who has heard the "f" word at school and knows that it is a no no word. Yesterday she asked me about the meaning of it. I just did not know how to explain the real meaning of it. I told her that I'll explain it when she is older but I also do not want her to find anther resource to satisfy her curiosity. How can I help her understand this subject?

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OKay so this is probably not the right answer but I think the best explanation I ever heard on where the word came from was that during the wars between England and France whenever an archer was captured they would cut off his middle finger to prevent him from Plucking the Yew (this is how you shoot) so when they wanted to show they were still capable of archery they would stick their middle finger up and say Pluck Yew... which eventually became what it is today.... At this point your daughter is old enough to hear some basics ... just explain that the word is slang for something only adults are supposed to do and is not appropriate for children to say or do, then I would give her some other examples of slang such as cutting a rug=dancing, blowing a gasket=getting mad... Or you could go so far as to explain that is slang for sex which is what 2 adults do when they are very in love and want to make a baby (which she should be about the age for questions like where do babies come from anyway)
www.Dictionary.comfuckVulgar . –verb (used with object) 1. to have sexual intercourse with. 2. Slang . to treat unfairly or harshly. –verb (used without object) 3. to have sexual intercourse. 4. Slang . to meddle (usually followed by around  or with ). –interjection 5. Slang . (used to express anger, disgust, peremptory rejection, etc., often followed by a pronoun, as you  or it. ) –noun 6. an act of sexual intercourse. 7. a partner in sexual intercourse. 8. Slang . a person, especially one who is annoying or contemptible. 9. the fuck, Slang . (used as an intensifier, especially with WH-questions, to express annoyance, impatience, etc.) —Verb phrases 10. fuck around, Slang . a) to behave in a frivolous or meddlesome way. b) to engage in promiscuous sex. 11. fuck off, Slang . a) to shirk one's duty; malinger. b) go away: used as an exclamation of impatience. c) to waste time. 12. fuck up, Slang . a) to bungle or botch; ruin. b) to act stupidly or carelessly; cause trouble; mess up. —Idiom 13. give a fuck, Slang . to care; be concerned. Origin: 1495–1505; akin to Middle Dutch fokken  to thrust, copulate with, Swedish dialect focka  to copulate with, strike, push, fock  penis  "They [the monks] are not in heaven because they fuck the wives of Ely." Fuccant  is pseudo-Latin, and in the original it is written in cipher. The earliest examples of the word otherwise are from Scottish, which suggests a Scandinavian origin, perhaps from a word akin to Norw. dial. fukka  "copulate," or Swedish dial. focka  "copulate, strike, push," and fock  "penis." Another theory traces it to M.E. fkye, fike  "move restlessly, fidget," which also meant "dally, flirt," and probably is from a general North Sea Gmc. word, cf. M.Du. fokken,  Ger. ficken  "fuck," earlier "make quick movements to and fro, flick," still earlier "itch, scratch;" the vulgar sense attested from 16c. This would parallel in sense the usual M.E. slang term for "have sexual intercourse," swive , from O.E. swifan  "to move lightly over, sweep" (see swivel). Chronology and phonology rule out Shipley's attempt to derive it from M.E. firk  "to press hard, beat." As a noun, it dates from 1680. French foutre  and Italian fottere  look like the English word but are unrelated, derived rather from L. futuere , which is perhaps from PIE base *bhau(t)-  "knock, strike off," extended via a figurative use "from the sexual application of violent action" [Shipley; cf. the sexual slang use of bang , etc.]. Popular and Internet derivations from acronyms (and the "pluck yew" fable) are merely ingenious trifling. The O.E. word was hæman , from ham  "dwelling, home," with a sense of "take home, co-habit." Fuck  was outlawed in print in England (by the Obscene Publications Act, 1857) and the U.S. (by the Comstock Act, 1873). The word may have been shunned in print, but it continued in conversation, especially among soldiers during WWI.
geez, yast1984, we didn't need you to post half the dictionary! lol

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