So...I've read alot of articles on how to get your child to sleep in their own bed, in their OWN ROOM...but here's my issue: How does one get their child to sleep in their own bed, when the child's bed is in the parents' room?! This situation is difficult, to say the least...no, I take that back...it's impossible!
My boyfriend and I had lived in a 2 bedroom house for over 5 years with our 2 older boys(his boy and my boy). Neither of us had issues with our older boys when they were toddlers wanting to sleep in our bed all night, but we do now! Our 2 1/2 year old son sleeps all night in our bed. And by all night I mean he falls asleep in it, and he wakes up in it. He had a normal progression from bassinet to crib...but that's where things started going wrong. He would wake up in the middle of the night, and cry and cry, jumping up and down, and rattling the bars. We tried letting him "cry it out," but I'm not even kidding when I say that the only time that worked, he screamed for over an hour. I felt that was harsh and excessive. My boyfriend started taking him into our bed insisting he feels "comfortable and safe." Well, that's wonderful, but we're not comfortable at all! And, btw, I don't think I need to point out that with a small child between us, there is NO intimacy before. None. It has actually been detrimental to our relationship. Physical contact is important in every relationship, even if it's just holding hands as you fall asleep and we don't even have that luxury. So, we got him a toddler bed hoping it would make him feel more like he was sleeping in a "real bed" but to no avail, he started out the night for 2 weeks in that bed, and then suddenly refused to even get in it to fall asleep anymore. Most experts would say, "Take him back to his room and keep putting him in his bed until he gets tired of fighting and gets the point." However, like I said, we only have 2 bedrooms. With a 7 and a 10 year old and all their stuff in one bedroom, and us in the other, the only space for a toddler bed we had was in our room. Now, if we put him back in his bed and he starts screaming, it's not like he's in another room and the sound is not affecting other people in the house. I even move him after he's fallen asleep when we're ready to go to bed, and as soon as his body hits that mattress, he's awake and crying to go back into bed with us, keeping me awake all night with little kicks and jabs. I don't quite know what to do anymore...his pediatrician told me he'd grow out of it, family beds are wonderful for a child's self esteem, but guess what...they're not so great for mine! If anyone has any advice out there for this tired, achey, bruised mom, it would be much appreciated!