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My 3 Month old will scream as soon as I put him down...everytime!
He's been like this since he's been born. He's our 2nd child. Our daughter was not like this at all. Anyway, at first we thought it was the formula so we tried a few different options. That didn't do anything. He's not gassy. He's fed, he's comfortable...just doesn't want to be set down! I know that you can't spoil a baby...but when he was first born, yes I held him all the time. But I think it's time to start weaning him of that a little bit considering it's getting hard chasing around my 16 mo old at the same time! What the heck do I do! I'm going nuts with frustration!
You might want to try setting up an activity for him. Activity mats, or if he can hold his head up well a Bumbo, or bebe pod. Surrond him with a few toys.Put him down for a few minutes and soothe him with your voice. The more he gets used to it, the more he will be willing to let you put him down. If it helps my oldest daughter refused to be put down,and eventually grew out of it. He may just need some extra attention and if you are uncomfortable letting him cry while you spend a few minutes doing something try a baby carrier. I had a sling and my youngest stayed cozied up in there, and I had hands free to play with my oldest at the park.
My daughter was like this when she was first born. She wanted to be snuggled all the time. I started putting her on her activity mat or in her bouncy seat right after she ate so she was full and happy at around 8 weeks old. I would sit on the floor and talk and play with her. Sometimes she would cry but i would not pick her up until she would start getting frantic. After a few days she got interested in what was going on on the mat or what she could see from her bouncy seat and I could walk away for a little while and finally do the dishes! She's four months old notw and LOVES to play by herself on her play mat. I know it is hard to let them cry:(
My little guy is the same way. What I have found to work for me, personally, is putting him in his bouncer in front of the tv and putting nick jr. on for him when I have things I have to do (supervised by someone else). During the night I just take a recieving blanket and swaddle him. It works like magic: Especially after a bath and bottle. He'll just conk right out.Don't get me wrong, at first it didn't always work. For those times my friend advised me to wear headphones and let him cry it out if all his needs were already met (unless he was really, really upset) that way I wouldn't feel as guilty about him crying (although I still did, lol). It sounds horrible but it does help relieve some stress if nothing else.Good luck and God Bless!
let him cry it out for a few minutes. after all, his only source of communication is to cry. if you gone down the list of everything you can do, and he's still crying, then he'll be ok to cry for a few minutes.
At 3 months old, your baby is far too young to be allowed to cry it out. Babies only form of communication is crying, they cannot talk, walk or do anything for themselves. It is the equivilent of you as a paraplegic in a foreign country strapped in a dentists chair with no one around to help. Babies are born with an inherent need to be close to their only source of food and help in the world...mom. So, my advice is to get a wrap or a sling and wear baby. Feed on demand and wear her and learn to anticipate feedings and diaper changes. This will all make for a happier and well balanced more confident baby. The more you attend to her needs and are there for her, the more confident she will be that her mom is there and her needs will be met, making for a more independent, less clingy toddler.