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My 4yr old does not want to go to preschool.

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My daughter started preschool in Sep 2010. Her first month was pretty rough; she would cry and make herself sick when being dropped her off. However, after this initial period my daughter made friends and was generally happy with school. Now, there are 6 weeks left of school and my daughter has reverted back to crying and not wanting to go to school. She says that she "doesn't like learning" and that she "only wants to play by herself". My daughter told me that a few weeks ago, her little friend told her that she didn't want to play with her. My daughter told the teacher who responded with "find someone else to play with". Since this happend the girls are playing with each other again, but I get the sense that my daughter is still hurt by what happened. My daughter is an only child (so far) and is pretty sensetive. Any advice on how to approach this and survive the next few weeks until school gets out. Should I be worried by this behavior or is she just going through some growing pains?

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Is she going to Kindergarten next year?  Its pretty common with kids that if someone has started talking about next year you are going to Kindergarten and you are going to learn so much more... to adults this seems exciting to children this kid of change can be terrifying.
Maybe you could arrrange a meeting with the other little girl's mom to see if she knows anything.Then the two of you plus your girls could get togeather and talk about what happened
Maybe instead of focusing on the school aspect of it u should try making learning fun at home. Do an activity you know she hasn't done but isnt too much over her head. Keep reminding her that her and mommy are going to learning something fun together, let her show how to do some too,  show her that learning can be fun and she may relax a bit more a school.PS I'm a preschool teacher, and if a teacher said, "find some else to play with" chances are she was trying to play with a child thats hard to get along with who hadn't been playing nicely ALL DAY! another possibility is that maybe a teacher told the other little girl to say that to your daughter because your daughter wasn't playing nicely. I could see that too. Sometimes when a child isn't being nice we encourage the other child to tell them they don't like it and won't play with them if they're not nice.Of course this all speculation but i hope it helps. =] good luck 
I know it's preschool but is she bored? Maybe she's more advanced the what the class average does.
I know it's preschool but is she bored? Maybe she's more advanced the what the class average does.
I know it's preschool but is she bored? Maybe she's more advanced the what the class average does.
I know it's preschool but is she bored? Maybe she's more advanced the what the class average does.
Try to be supportive of her and talk to her. Maybe she doesn't feel she fits in or she is "stressed" there. Try to find out from the teacher what's going on with her and ask if you can sit in one day.

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