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My 6 year old daughter keeps drawning on the walls is she autistic

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my 6 year old keeps writing on the walls. she has been punished we have taken away all writing utensils we have tried everything but somehow she gets ahold of something and does it again! when we ask her why she shrugs her shoulders and says I don't now. that's her answer for everything when she's in trouble she just says I don't know!!!! She wont stop doing it! I rent from my aunt and uncle and they are so mad at me for it I just don't know how to make her stop! I'm worried that she may be autistic bc I don't know why else she keeps doing this its even to the point my husband spanked her and the next day she did it again! what do I do? is there something wrong with my daughter developmentally that she doesn't understand not to do this? and before people judge we aren't quick to spank our children she's been doing this for months now and we tried everything else before we spanked her.. we took away toys and games and play dates and time outs.. I'm not looking to be judged I just need to know what to do

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Ok, what the actual? You think your SIX year old is AUTISTIC, which is a disorder which many people (and obviously yourself) do NOT understand because she is being a child and drawing on a wall even though you told her no, and hit her? Really? You seriously jump from "Oh, my child need stimulation and a way to express herself" to "Oh well she must be mental"? Jesus H Christ on a cracker, Lady I think you might have been huffing a few magic markers. Drawing on a wall is a normal kid experience. All kids do it. And you know what? "I don't know" is a good excuse. She is six years old for crying out loud, its not like she can write a paper and explain the thought process behind it. Kid's simply cannot explain WHY they do certain things. They just do them. And spanking your child? Gee, way to introduce violence into the household there, Chief. Look, if autism is a concern, there are markers. Missing major milestones as a infant/toddler for one (by massive amounts, might I add). Social anxiety. It will have had to happen in your family as well, which is referred to as family history. You can't self diagnose this and phrases like this hurt not only your children but demean those with this actual disability.
I think it is normal for small children to draw on walls - to a certain degree.(Even I did it when I was small, and no, I don't have autism). In your case it seems that the problem is a bit more serious and over a longer period of time than usual. Therefore, one should try to find out why your daughter keeps doing this, even if she can't tell you why. Does she go to some preschool or primary school? If yes, maybe it is worthwhile to speak to the teachers/educators there and find out if there she also draws on the walls, or shows other problems, or if it's just at home. If she doesn't go anywhere but is all the time at home, could it be that she just doesn't have enough ways to express herself? Do you have other children, and do they have any problems? Punishing her obviously doesn't work - have you tried it the other way around? Like, giving her a small gift or at least praising her and encouraging her on days when she does NOT draw on the walls? If that doesn't help you, maybe you should consider taking her to a psychologist who is a specialist for children.
Help your daughter get what she needs. Buy some chalkboard paint, and designate an area that is hers to draw on! Or, get a large roll of newsprint or paper, suspend it and let her have at it! Punishing leads to disconnection. Whatever you can do now to build connection will pay off as she gets older. Trust me.

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