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My 9 year old has written this, should I be concerned?

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I was going through my daughter's saved files on her computer and read a disturbing essay she wrote, Should I be conderned? The essay reads "Chapter 1No air conditioner, no fan, no water, no food, just me and the heat of this dark basement. My name is Delanie Rose and I ran away when I was ten. My mother was a hoarder and my father, a drug addict. I’m fourteen now, and I have run from my house in Apple, Massachusetts to here, I think Austin, Texas. I want to make it to the Panama Canal by January 1st so my grandparents can take me to Nevada, where they live. I don’t even think my parents know I’m gone…my mother has so much crap she probably just thinks I’m somewhere in there. Plus, my dad probably forgot that he even had a daughter. At the age of five I went into deep depression and tried to kill myself. My mom came home from work to find me with a knife cutting myself, so she sent me to rehabilitation. I stayed there until I was 8. At 7 I found a rope in my room at the rehab center and I tried to hang myself, nothing worked nothing…"

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In all honesty, talk to her about it. She could be a developing writter. I know I  wrote alot of "interesting" things right off the bat that freaked out my mom. It could also be a copy paste from something she found online or something from a writer or book she's researching at school. Don't jump down her throat about it because if she is writing it then she might be proud of it just waiting until she has more to show you.  
Not at all. My daughter has grown up in a stable, loving, supportive home and school environment, but she has a vivid imagination and has been writing "edgy" stuff like this from a very young age. She develops all kinds of characters and plots that in now way resemble her real life, or refelct her mental health. It's a way for kids to explore emotions, try on other lifestyles, and work through complex ideas like poverty, suicide, etc. If in her own life and behavior she seems depressed or stressed, I'd speak to her. But if not, I would not invade her privacy. She might resent it, and if there is no reason to be concerned, why do that?
Thank you both soooooooo much...i asked her but i got a bad awnser...she screamed at me and said that this was her plan for next year
if she's screaming at you that this is her plan for next year, you may want to go ahead and set up an appt with her doctor. see what he says. and keep an eye on her. try to have open conversations, without being harsh or judgmental. i know this is difficult, but with your love and support, she will get through this.
I think it's ok to do as pinkpaisley8709 suggests, but I do remember an episode where I snooped in my daughter's diary, had a discussion with her based on something I read, and really made her angry that I snooped. She played the drama queen to deliberately pay me back. So, it's tough to draw conclusions from this. Girls who like to write often have private worlds that they create and do not want entered. Her story is very "out there" and quite fictionalized. I view it as an exploration and perhaps emotional statement more than a real threat at her age. Her angry words to you could have been much like "I hate you!" which kids say but don't really mean. If you're worried, however, talk to a professional. One way or another, it still may come down to a broken trust issue that you'll have to settle with your daughter. Been there, it's not fun--but you can come out closer because of it.

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