There is a lot that kids will be exposed to, and while this boy is young, it's nothing that he, or your kids won't hear at school. Is that sad? Yes. But, you can't shelter your kids forever.my husband swears more than he should and our kids have learned that there are certain words that are only for grown ups. They don't repeat them because they know better.as far as video games go, they're just games. People around the world play violent games and no country has the amount of gun violence that we do. The people who commit the mass shooting you are talking about didn't do them because they played violent video games. They did those horrible things because they had psychological problems and mental illnesses that were to properly treated.ultimately, you have to decide what is best for your kids at this time. If its possible to have play dates at your house where there won't be violent video games or inappropriate toys, do that. Otherwise, you can't make your friend change her parenting. We all do things different and we all do what works for us. The stuff this little boy is doing is not harmful and really isn't likely to turn him into a horrible person. It's just stuff that you don't approve of, and you can't force someone to raise their kids according to your ideas of what is right. So, if that means you can't be friends with this woman, so be it.