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New to being a stay-at-home mom.

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I am new to being a stay-at-home mom & am seeking some help. I have 3 children ages 5, 3, & 1. My 5 year old is in preschool, but I am home with the other 2. I am looking for suggestions on meeting new mom's & making schedules for the day. Since I left work, I have lost a lot of my social time & most of those people didn't have children, so I'm kind of lonely now. I'm also trying to figure out what to do with my boys so that they don't spend the day in front of the TV, but I can still get some things done. Thanks in advance for any help!

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I've been a SAHM for over a year now - I love it and hate it all at the same time!  I found a great local mommy's group through Meetup.com - I'd suggest looking there to see if there's a group that meets near you.  You can also check with your church or pediatrician if they know of any groups (some pediatricians offer new mommy's groups).  Also check at the local recreation centers or YMCAs.  Finally, a lot of the kid's gyms have open play sessions.  They're free with a membership, but you can also pay a nominal fee and join the fun even if you're not a member.  Look for local Gymboree Play & Learn, My Gym, or Little Gym.  You may also find some privately owned, non-chain places near you as well, and most of them offer one free class so you can give it a whirl. One of the best things you can do, though, is to teach your kids to play by themselves.  I'm not saying unsupervised - just that they don't need you to watch every move they make.  Start them off slow - two or three minutes of you just sitting back and letting them go to it - and then gradually increase the space, and the time, until you're able to *gasp* do some dishes while they're building blocks or whatever.  It takes time, but oh is it worth it. Good luck!
meetup.com is great for meeting other mom's like you. i have been a stay at home mom for over 20 months now, and i also have 6 pit bulls. i home-school my daughter, because the local pre-schools are a trocious. it's very hard to get things done around the house, while trying to entertain all these children at once. i usually start the mornings off with a little tv while i cook breakfast. once she's in the chair, and eating, i turn the tv off. i have posterboards, and charts in the kitchen plastered all over the walls. at breakfast we go over the calender, today's weather, and the season, abc's, and today's letter. with today's letter i give a few examples of words that begin with that letter. after she's done eating, i turn on a little music so she can dance, and have free time to run and play until around 10:30 or so. (she wakes up at 6) that's when dad will leave for work, and she'll then take a nap. we she wakes, i turn on low music while i cook lunch. she eats, and music is off. we go over shapes, numbers, and colors. when she's done, i get on the floor and play with her. arts and crafts are included. coloring, stickers, finger paints, etc. about an hour of that, and i turn the tv on to do housework. i give her an hour of that. tv is turned off, and we read for a while. then go over our weekly theme, such as bugs. sing songs, make crafts, discuss topic. then get ready  for dinner, eat in peace. school is done. bath, read, and snuggle until bed. i know this was long and drawn out, and i'm sorry, but i hope this helps! the more structure, and routine a day has, the less tantrums you will deal with. just also learn how to go with the flow. if they loose interest while teaching, leave it alone. i do.  
I have been a home based nurturer for eighteen years.  I home pre-schooled two and sent the oldest, who needed some separation from me, to a good pre-school program.  I joined a playgroup and was active in church and school.  Now that all my offspring are in school I don't have play groups; I am friendly with some of the kid's friend's parents.  Sanity comes through finding a purpose and learning to love even the dirty gross stuff.  For more on nurturing survival visit my blog at www.abundantnurturing.wordpress.com.  Best of Luck in this great adventure!

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