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Okay to let my 7 month old cry in the middle of the night?

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My daughter goes to bed at 7pm and we normally give her a bottle at that time. She'll wake up at 1am and cry so we give her a bottle and she'll fall back to sleep. She'll then wake up around 4am and again we will give her a bottle and she'll fall back asleep. Then she'll sleep until 7am. The main reason we are just getting up right away and giving her a bottle is her crib is still in our bedroom. However, we are moving into a new apartment where she will have her own room. We want her to get used to sleeping through the night. Do we do this by letting her cry herself to sleep when she wakes up in the middle of the night to eat? She eats baby food, some regular food, snacks, and she has bottles throughout the day. She used to only wake up once and sleep in until 8am or 9am a few months ago. But ever since she started moving around more and eating things other than just for bottle she's waking up more. Or do we continue to wake up and give her a bottle when she wakes up and wait for her to change her own pattern?

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you need to add cereal to her nightime bottles. stop getting her up. she's going to expect that, and this problem will only continue to get worse. let her cry it out. it's perfectly safe. she needs to learn how to soothe herself back to sleep when she wakes up in the night, so let her do it. hope this helps.
i would still get up to feed her.. if shes wai=king up and eating then she is waking up because she is hungry. maybe she is just having a growth spurt and will stop waking up so many times soon. i wouldnt let her cry if she is humgry. it will NOT get worse.
or maybe try keeping her up later so she will sleep longer..my daughters only 2 months but if she goes to bed at 7pm she wakes up around the same times as u said ur daughter does. but if she goes to bed between 10-11 she sleeps untill atleast 7am. but obv if there tired and fall asleep then u really cant help that. hope u get to sleep better soon!
My pediatrion always told me they should be sleeping through the night by 7 months. I wouldn't add cereal to her bottle because they often over eat that way, but maybe feeding her a bowl of cereal right before her bottle, then bed. She should sleep for atleast 8 hours. The cry it out method is hard but if you are consistant it will work well.
Is she actually crying when you get up or is she just starting to move and fuss. Sometimes they will get themselves back to sleep. Maybe try going over and talking to her. Maybe rock her for a little and then put her back down. Thing is she is getting used to falling asleep with a bottle she may need to learn to fall asleep with out the bottle. When she wakes she thinks she needs it to get back to sleep. Waking once a night is not bad but that last stretch is only 3 hours and she should be able to go longer then that without eating.
I am a pediatrician, first of all. In my opinion, any pediatrician who advises letting babies cry themselves to sleep, or says that babies should be sleeping through the night at this age, should lose his/her medical license. It is perfectly normal for infants of this age to wake several times a night to feed. Also, the cry it out method is child abuse, pure and simple. Tiny babies need the security of mom's presence. If you let her cry and do not respond to her, you are teaching her that her cries do not matter and she will not learn to trust that this world is a safe place. Listen to your own mother's intuition (and not the "baby trainers") and respond to your baby when she cries. She desperately needs you and you will not spoil her. As the above poster mentioned, the cry it out method will eventually work, but at a great price. Your baby will learn that her cries don't matter, so she wll sadly not even try to connect with you after awhile. Furthermore, little babies were never meant to be separated from their mothers in another room, and in little cages (cribs). This is very stressful to them. Research proves this to be true. And then to add not responding to their cries? We Americans have got this all very wrong. Remember mom, it is very easy for someone else to tell you not to go to your baby when she cries for you, but you are the true expert on your child. Do what feels right to you. And remember, this stage, while inconvenient at times, will pass all too quickly. If you respond as nature intended, your child will learn to sleep on her own when it is age appropriate (ie not as an infant). Blessings to you and yours.
I had a similar experience with my daughter, but once we moved somewhere where she had her own room, we new we needed it to change. We made the bedroom as cozy and comfortable as possible for her, made sure she was well fed before bed, and put her to sleep. She woke up during the night like we expected. We waited about ten minutes, and slowly the cried began to quiet, about twenty minutes later we checked on her, and she was fast asleep. Babies adjust quickly. Now she is 21 months old. Every once in a while she wakes up during the night. We simply change her diaper, offer her some water. give her a hug and kiss and let her go back to sleep on her own.Simply put, each child and parent is different. Try new methods and see which one fits both your needs. She may just be hungry and need more to eat before bed. She may need to be held for a moment and reassured. Or she may just need to cry herself to sleep. It will not cause your daughter to "no longer try and connect with you." It will cause her to learn to calm herself, because you cannot comfort a child every time they cry, especially when they get older and cry out of fustration or attention.Do what feels right to you. And it is ok to place your child in a crib, which is not a cage, but a safe place to sleep.Mother of 2 

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