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Relationship is falling apart.

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Before I tell you my problem I have to go through this whole annoying back story! My boyfriend moved, and there was a stupid mix up with him transferring schools so he was staying with his friend untill everything was fixed. His friend lives right around the corner so I go over there to see him, but when I get there his friend tells me that he went home to pick up some of his stuff and hang out with his family and he was going to be back in a few days. Me and all of his friends are pretty close, and they are pretty much my friends too, so I decide to stay and hang out. Which was a big mistake! So I come in and we ended up watching a movie, and talking untill about 12:30, and then he starts drinking. Which I know would end up not being a good thing, I am 16 weeks pregnant and I shouldn't be around that. Then since it was getting late I decided to just stay the night, I didn't wanna walk home by myself that late. Anyways, He gives me a shirt to change into, and then like fixes the couch so I could sleep on it.Then I lay down on the couch and go to sleep. When I wake up he is laying on the couch with me, and then I got up and left. That was it! But today I get a call from my boyfriend asking me if we had sex! So obviously he told him that. But now my boyfriend thinks I cheated and he is ignoring me. I don't know what to do, I can't raise this baby alone, and if he thinks I cheated I know he won't forgive me. What should I do?

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I have actually had a simular situation, so I may be able to help a little. I'm gonna try to keep this as short as possible, but that may be difficult because I am a rambler. So when I was about 17, I had been dating this guy for about 4 years, and what started as a cute little 13 year old relationship actually turned into something bigger. He was at that point the love of my life, I thought I was going to be with him forever. Me and his friends were kinda close, they were my friends too, and I hung out with them before. But one night I went over to one of our friends house to study for a test I had the next day. When I get there, he tells me he has always liked me, and then he pins me down and kisses me. Of course I reacted like anyone would, I pushed him off of me, and I got up and left. That didn't make him happy, so the next day he told everyone at school that we had sex. My boyfriend actually heard it from one of his friends, and he wouldn't talk to me for   a long time. Then he came over and I told him what happend, and then eventually the guy confessed that he lied. And we were together for about 3 years after that and the only reason it ended was because he left to go to college, and we eventually just grew apart from eachother. SO, my advice is to give him time, eventually he will come to you for you to explain yourself, then tell him what happend, if he doesn't believe you then it wouldn't have worked out anyways. Relationhips need trust, if he doesn't trust you, it's not a good relationship. 
Ultimately, this is why teenagers should not be having sex. You're just not ready and there is too much drama. Obviously, it's a little late for that. I agree with Oceana, you need to give him time, and you also need to talk to him. You can't work things out if you don't talk.
All you can really do is say you didnt cheat and maybe get them both together at the same time and say you didnt do anything wrong if he doesnt believe you then well there is really nothing you can do about it and just wait for your beautiful baby to be born and most men change once they see their baby for the first time and you can raise this baby by yourself heaps of woman do it im doing it because me and my boyfriend broke up and he wont even talk to me or see his baby anymore and if he does that then he obviously isnt worth it and you should concerntrate on doing whats best for your little baby. Things should work out though try get them at the same time and say you didnt do anything chances are if you do that the person thats lying will look guilty good luck

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