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Sister or not

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If an adult daughter gives birth to a child, then, abandons that child to you and you adopt that child as your own... WHAT is the relationship between the adult daughter and the adopted child? What is the relationship of the adult daughter's siblings to the adopted child?

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the biological mother is still the mother, whether or not you want to call it that. the mother's sibling would be an aunt, not a sister.
The way the world is today familys create their own placement i think. My sister is 43 and I am 30 she has a son they same age as my husband just a few yrs younger than me and we grew up as brother and sister because my sister raised me most of my life. Now my daughter will call my nephew uncle because to me he is my brother. Confusing maybe but I think families are what you make them. So if you raise her as your daughter then I would say thats what she is. The way society is though, I would tell her when she is old enough to understand so she knows what her actual family tree is for when she starts her own family.
TO "pinkpaisley8709":   The "biological" mother is nothing more than an "egg donor".  Her "mother" status was erased the moment she signed the "Termination of Parental Rights".  To be blunt, her "Biological Mother" status disappeared the moment she raised her fist to punch her FOUR DAY OLD baby for "pooping on her".  It really irritates me that people automatically assume that because a child is adopted, the "birth parents" gave their child up out of love.  In most cases, these children are extremely abused.  The adoptive parent IS the child's parent.  To Lorilee`:  Thank you.  I was raised with a cousin who was only a few years older than me.  She isn't just my cousin...  she is my sister!  And, actually, it's been no secret to our son that he is adopted and who the "egg donor" was.  She has since gone on to have more children that were taken from her.  She simply enjoys the attention she gets when pregnant and wants nothing to do with the child.  Very, very sad.
TO "pinkpaisley8709":   The "biological" mother is nothing more than an "egg donor".  Her "mother" status was erased the moment she signed the "Termination of Parental Rights".  To be blunt, her "Biological Mother" status disappeared the moment she raised her fist to punch her FOUR DAY OLD baby for "pooping on her".  It really irritates me that people automatically assume that because a child is adopted, the "birth parents" gave their child up out of love.  In most cases, these children are extremely abused.  The adoptive parent IS the child's parent.  To Lorilee`:  Thank you.  I was raised with a cousin who was only a few years older than me.  She isn't just my cousin...  she is my sister!  And, actually, it's been no secret to our son that he is adopted and who the "egg donor" was.  She has since gone on to have more children that were taken from her.  She simply enjoys the attention she gets when pregnant and wants nothing to do with the child.  Very, very sad.
TO "pinkpaisley8709":   The "biological" mother is nothing more than an "egg donor".  Her "mother" status was erased the moment she signed the "Termination of Parental Rights".  To be blunt, her "Biological Mother" status disappeared the moment she raised her fist to punch her FOUR DAY OLD baby for "pooping on her".  It really irritates me that people automatically assume that because a child is adopted, the "birth parents" gave their child up out of love.  In most cases, these children are extremely abused.  The adoptive parent IS the child's parent.  To Lorilee`:  Thank you.  I was raised with a cousin who was only a few years older than me.  She isn't just my cousin...  she is my sister!  And, actually, it's been no secret to our son that he is adopted and who the "egg donor" was.  She has since gone on to have more children that were taken from her.  She simply enjoys the attention she gets when pregnant and wants nothing to do with the child.  Very, very sad.
it would be the mom and her sister would be the aunt :):):):):P:):):P
to LillieBet: PinkPaisley was answering your question, not making a judgement call on you or your sister.  She absolutely did not deserve your attack for her response.  I agree that the "egg donor's" actions were deplorable, and your nephew is incredibly lucky to have you to mother him.  HOWEVER.  No matter what you call it, to a certain extent, Pink Paisley is correct.  As far as your nephew's medical records are concerned, that woman is his biological mother.  It's HER information that will be necessary to his pediatrician and other doctors.  This isn't a reflection on you.  YOU are his mother in every other way that counts. My son is adopted.  His birthmother signed the paperwork agreeing to his adoption and relinquishing her legal rights when he was one day old.  He's been with me since he was three weeks old.  But you know what?  She's still his birthmother.  She will ALWAYS be his birthmother, even if we never have contact with her again.  My son will grow up knowing this, just as your nephew will grow up knowing his birth story.  Please don't assume that most children were placed for adoption because they were abused.  I'll agree that's more than likely the case for older children.  It's not the case for a majority of infants.  Only about 40% of adoptions in the United States are through the foster care system; 45% are private adoptions (mostly infants).  The rest is a mix of family and international adoption.  Most of those do NOT involve abuse. I'm not saying you have to call this woman "birthmother" or anything else.  But don't attack someone who does, especially if they don't know the whole story.
to lilliebt,like many previous posters have stated, i was not passing judgement on your situation, or the childs. i was simply answering your question, and in all actuality, i gave you the technical answer. i'm so sorry to hear about what has happened to the child, and the biological mother should certainlely not have any parental rights, and thank god she gave them up. however, don't get a pissy with me when i give you the correct answer to your question. she may not be the mother in theory to this child, but when it comes down to blood, she is still the mother, and her sister would be the aunt. whether or not you want to call it that! call her, and the sister whatever you like, it's your decision, and  your family!
Its so complex. I don't know the relationship.Target baby registry
person adopting the adoptee is the mother. the adoptee is now the sister of adoptees mom. and thats all

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