In this kind of situation, it often helps to see a therapist. It might help both Macey and Ben to talk about their feelings and air any problems they've been dealing with. Talking to a neutral third party can make teenagers feel more comfortable talking about things since they may, for a number of reasons which aren't necessarily caused by parents/step-parents, feel judged, or simply like they cannot talk to anyone else. Some family sessions might also be helpful since both you and your husband can be there to talk to the kids. You can be honest with them, you can tell them how much you wish they would talk with you, and you can, together as a family, figure out how to be comfortable communicating with each other.I know it's not easy. I remember when I was a teenager, I never felt like I could really talk to anyone in my family. There was no specific reason why, I just didn't feel like I had a strong enough relationship with any of them. If we had seena therapist more than once, I'm sure I would have been able to open up and really connect with them, especially when I was going through some hard times during high school.