Redstilts hit the nail on the head. Your husband has expressed worries about how he can provide for you... so he's definitely bothered by the situation. It's kind of hard to feel inadequate, and even worse when you don't know how to fix it.I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt and say that it's not that he's lazy or selfish... it's that he's never been taught how to be a good husband or good dad, so he doesn't know what to do. This is why you need to TELL him what you want, what would make you happy, and give as clear a set of directions as possible.Start with small things, like asking him to entertain the kiddo while you make dinner (you might call it "have some daddy/daughter time" so he understands that it can be a special thing and not just sort of watching her), and helping you put away the dishes or fold laundry. If he does it "wrong," either bite your tongue and ignore it, or nicely teach him the right way. Ask for what you want clearly and politely, and thank him when he's done.Once he's starting to be more hands-on, then you can start working on the bigger things, like talking about how you're going to handle money, and about how there is more to "providing" than just bringing home a paycheck. Express to him that doing things like having dinner ready, doing laundry and vaccuuming every other day, making doctor's appointments, getting the bills paid on time, and having lots of daddy/daughter time is an absolutely crucial part of family life that he CAN do, and also makes it easier for you to be at work guilt-free. Also make him a deal that when he's working you'll split up chores more equally, and when he's home he'll do the lion's share. And it goes both ways... if in the future he's working and you're at home, then you'll do more. Partnership is key, as is appreciating everything that the other does, and expressing it often!