Dear Concerned Dad ~ I think you're asking an excellent and important question. I love that she "came clean." That means that SHE trusts YOU. One chief reason that children lie is because they don't trust their parents, so it's really wonderful that she trusts you. You know her best. You say that she is a smart girl, and ~ believe it or not ~ kids really *want* to be safe. I know that it's hard to move beyond all the fears that you have, but if you are able to have a conversation with her (a dialogue, not a lecture) and find out what SHE thinks about the potential risks. One thing you can ask her to do is tell you how she will keep herself safe. And, you could ask her what kind of help she would like from you to be safe. The beauty of this is that you keep the lines of communication open, and she feels like she has a partner in you. It's really important, as our kids get older, for them to feel that they CAN talk to us and we will be HELPFUL and not hyperbolic. I hope that's helpful!