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Why can't I bond with my daughters?
My husband and I have 3 wonderful children, our son is 13, and our daughters are 11 and 5. I love them more than life itself, and would do anything for them. But, I feel so guilty, and really heartbroken, I don't feel any sort of bond or connection to our daughters like I do our son. I really understand him, we can joke around or be very serious, and we have been that way all his life. Our daughters though, are very different. I don't know how to interact with them, I can't joke or talk with them, and honestly, don't 'feel' the mother-daughter bond I feel should be there. I feel like a horrible mother, and I don't know what to do. Any advice?
Maybe you could try asking them about what kind of things they would like to do with their mom. Young kids are still just learning to verbalize their needs, so the answers you get will be an indirect indication of what they really want. But mostly, they want your time, and the suggestions they give about how you can spend that time together will be fun for them, and will also help you learn more about their personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.