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why does my daughter want to learn alone?
My 4 year old is a great learner when she tries. (She has Bi-Polar and Epilepsy which make learning harder for her) I try everyday to get her to sit down with me and practice her writing and her reading. She will do it for about 5 minutes and then she is frigidity and anxious. But as soon as I let her get up and go play she goes to her room and stays in their for almost an hour. When she comes back out she brings me her workbook and she has completed pages of letters and numbers. sometimes I can hear her trying to read and sound things out. So why wont she do this with me? I don't yell at her, I don't scold. I just want to be a part of her learning. What am I doing wrong? Should I be concerned? Is this normal?
She may simply be self-conscious because she knows she has difficulties. Learning in front of others can be difficult for anyone. My 3 and 4 year olds like do things at their own pace. They ask for help when they need it and don't like to be watched when they don't need help. That goes for writing, drawing, building toys, etc. They like to just show me what they've done rather than have me watch the process.As far as the learning goes, in general, you don't need to rush it. Let her work on it when she wants to, you don't need to set aside time for her to practice every day. That's what school is for. Right now, just incorporate learning into play, but make sure it's natural. Young children do their best learning while playing, not while sitting at a table with a workbook.