This is exactly how it was when I was pregnant, and also after my daughter was born, my mother in law tried to tell me how to do EVERYTHING!!!! (Eat this, don't eat that, don't breast feed baby after you've had a shower or if you're sick, this name is better than that, etc..)You have to let them know that it's nice that they care, and you really appreciate them trying to be helpful with advice (...because it'll soften them up for the next bit....) BUT, Since YOU are the one who is having the baby, you would prefer to decide what is best for you, husband & baby. It won't be easy at first, and she will continue to tell you about what is better and how to do whatever, but if you just calmly remind her that it's your choice and you don't plan on taking their advice on the topic, they'll get over it. Let her know that you and your husband created this baby and you're the only ones making decisions for it.Something else that helps is keeping your plans between you and your husband, and maybe a few close friends. If you say an idea then your mother has a chance to counter it. If she has NO IDEA what you're planning, she has no where to start with her protests!!! It's not as bad as it sounds, either. You don't have to keep everything a secret, just things that are very important to you, and only from mommy dearest!! If you feel you're about to say something that she will probably start preaching about, just take a breath, smile to yourself, and imagine how happy you will be when everything is set in stone!!