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will be a 1st time mom Dec. 8. How did you decide to breastfeed/not?

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I'm 18 and am expecting my first child in December of this year. I am having a difficult time deciding whether I want to breastfeed or not. I work full time, and lead a very busy life, (not too busy to not take care of my daughter of course). what factors made you decide to breastfeed or not?

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I was very not sure if breastfeeding was for me when I was pregnant with my daughter. I am conservitive and I also get uncomfortable (still do) around people breastfeeding. They even asked me at my first appointment if I was going to nurse and I said I do not know. I read more about how it was better and helped with bonding. I also learned it can save you about $1000 a year. I tried and it was tough, but I nursed her for a year and was very proud. I did enjoy the bonding but I do not think as much as some people. One nice thing is in the night when the baby wakes your do not have to go make a bottle the food is right there, same when you are out and about. I mean if you want to nurse you can just find a nice spot to sit with a blanket and there you go. You would most likely have to sit with your baby to feed them a bottle plus find a place to warm it. Nursing is always there, the milk is there, no bottles to clean, no formula to mix, or warm up. But do what feels right for you.
If the hospital you deliver in has lactation consultants, go ahead and try it in the hospital because you'll have great support. If you like it then you can continue when you get home, and if you don;t you can switch to formula or pump milk when you get home. I was so excited to breastfeed. It was one thing I was so sure I wanted for my little one. I had a hard birth that ended in a c-section and the pain meds made me sick. I breastfed exclusively inthe hospital, but I had to have a lactation consultant help me everytime. When we got home she cried and cried becaseus he was so hungry but she was latching on very shallow and wasn't getting any milk. Good thing the hospital sent us home with a sample of enfamil. I gave her a bottle or formula that night. I had a pump and I alternated giving her pumped milk and a bottle of formula. I did that for a couple of weeks until I swtiched to all formula. It is still a big regret for me that I didn't try harder...but I find solace in the fact that she got my first milk, and that we had that bonding time. Whatever you decide to do is the right choice for you.
I was set on breastfeeding with my first child but it didn't work out. She had a weird habit of relaxing her jaw after getting latched on and it made trying to nurse impossibly difficult. I cried over having to give her formula but it was the best thing for both of us. She has always been the smartest, healthiest, biggest girl so I haven't felt bad about that decision.With my second I decided that I would definitely try to breastfeed, but I knew I wouldn't have to feel bad if it didn't work. In the hospital my on nursed like a champ and I was so happy, but then my milk didn't come in quickly enough. He went through all my colostrum immediately and had to have a couple of bottles of formula because he was so hungry. Once we got home he had no patience for nursing, he only wanted a bottle because he knew it was easier to drink from. I pumped for as long as I could but the first week home he was drinking 6oz bottles and I just couldn't keep up. Having to spend 30 minutes every 2 hours to pump while trying to take care of an 18 month old and a newborn was too much. So, after just 6 weeks he was on formula too.I'm currently pregnant with my third and I'm more determined than ever to make breastfeeding work. But, if it doesn't I won't be too upset.I think the best way for any mother to handle this decision is to at least TRY to breastfeed. Your milk will come in no matter what so giving it a try won't hurt anything or anyone. If, after you give it a chance you find that it just isn't working out or that you just don't feel comfortable (emotionally) with it, don't feel bad about going to formula. And if you do go with formula make sure you choose an organic brand.
I was determined to breast feed my baby. I read about how much better, (not to mention cheaper) breast feeding was for your baby so I really wanted to do it. I was able to for 5 months and then I pumped for the next month. I did supplement with formula sometimes because at first my milk was not coming in. It was hard at first and it does hurt but I believe it is SO worth it. It is much easier than warming bottles in the middle of the night and no matter when you are, you always have food ready for your baby.I suggest you try it and see what you think. It may take a bit to get the hang of it, but I would try your best because it is best for your little one. 
I tried to breast feed my first and it was VERY difficult.  It turned into an emotional struggle for me since I thought it should be easy and everyone at the hospital was trying to "help" but in a way that was too "in your face" for me.  After 10 days, multiple lactation consultants, my baby continuing to losing weight and me trying to feed her literally every hour, the pediatrician finally talked with me and helped me decide to stop trying and move to bottles.  My only advice...breast feeding is great but don't let it negatively impact bonding with your baby.  Given yourself permission to change the plan if things don't work out like you planned.  Those 10 days were probabaly the most stressful of my life when they should have been the best and my daughter is thriving at 5 as a product of Similax :-)
ok so i didnt want to breastfeed at all and my husband really wanted me to so i did.... after 3 weeks i couldnt do it anymore, i ended up having a cloged duct (which hurts worse than labor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) but on the other hand i love that i did it for the 3 weeks that i did!!! even if you cant stick to it give it a try
I like shooker0619 was also unable to continue breastfeeding after 3 weeks. my body just simply seemed to stop producing. I decided to breast feed because it was better for my daughter since she would get the nutrition and the immunities that she needed. I also did it for selfish reasons such has it was cheaper (hey babies are expensive who can deny that?) and it is also really good for you because it helps to lower your weight as well since your are using up extra calories that go into the milk. ultimately it will end up being what ever is comfortable for you.

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