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Get Great After-Baby Sex

Congratulations. You've been given the six-week postpartum green light, and it's time to get back to the business of gettin' busy. Many new moms face sex-drive challenges thanks to hormones, sleep deprivation and body-image issues.

If you're just not in the mood, it may be because your body doesn't crave the same kind of touch you enjoyed prepregnancy. Sixty percent of parents polled in a recent Babytalk survey say their partner is the one who initiates sex post-baby, but your partner can't know your new ooh and ahh spots unless you show him. Initiate play with this fun, sexy and non-threatening foreplay-map activity inspired by sex expert Laura Berman, Ph.D, author of The Book of Love: Every Couple's Guide to Emotional and Sexual Intimacy:

  • Make two photocopies of an outline of the female body.

  • Hand one to your honey and ask him to mark the places he thinks you enjoy being touched and number those spots in perceived order of priority.

  • Mark the spots on the other copy of the female body map where you like to be touched and number them.

  • Now, trade papers and compare.

You've just opened the door to a playful conversation about how your body has changed and how to put the fun back into sex.