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Reality Check: Baby's Big Birthmark

Q  My baby has a birthmark on her face that people notice and even ask about. How should I answer?
A For sure, when you see someone ogling your baby, your instinct is to do whatever it takes to get that person to stop. But people are going to stare, and even ask questions, not out of malice but from simple human curiosity. So just try to answer as briefly and matter-of-factly as you can ("Yes, it's a birthmark, and it doesn't hurt her at all"), and move on. You'll probably want to explain the birthmark to your friends who are too polite to mention it, but you're not obliged to say anything to strangers who stare. You don't owe the world an explanation, because your child's face is what it is  -- the face her mother loves. And no mom ever needs to explain that.