Every Tuesday, we’ll report exactly how much our families have in their checking accounts -- and what they’re planning to do with it.
We did not have to pay for the majority of our meals or our room and board, but astonishingly we spent $260 on a 3 day weekend. Some of it was spent on Christmas presents but most of it was gas and food. It's amazing how these expenses add up. I knew that this weekend would cost us money that we didn't have, but I refuse to let money negatively influence my relationships with family and friends. I hadn't seen my grandmother in almost a year and a half, and she had only seen the baby once -- so to me it was worth the cost.
Money came in! My ex was able to cover the full amount of child support, plus some additional checks arrived. I now have December covered, and there’s money still in my account! Plus, I’m still expecting another $300 to $400 to come in December. That feels really good. It means I’ll be able to give the kids a little Christmas this year. I still need to be careful, of course, but now I can breathe. In some ways it feels like I'm taking such teeny, tiny baby steps, and yet, I know that forming the right habits now will make a tremendous difference when there are commas in front of that decimal point in my check book.
I have so many decisions to make when it comes to spending money. I would love to splurge on my kids and make sure they want for nothing, but I don't really have the funds. Christmas is soon approaching and one of my son's 1st birthday is the day before. Do I tell my kids that there's no holiday this year because Mommy has no money? My other son's birthday is 2 weeks after Christmas and he wants every single Spiderman toy known to man! How can I say "no" to my boys? I only want the best for my kids and sometimes I overcompensate for the things I didn't have during my childhood, but all that comes at a hefty price. I need to figure out how to attack this situation with a level head.