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I got a smiley face! My kit told me yesterday morning that I'd ovulate within the next 24 to 36 hours! This is day 15 of my cycle and I'm pleased to note that this is about when I thought I ovulated in past months based on my CM and basal temperature charting. Now, I know getting pregnant is hard — and can take a while — even when you have sex exactly when you're ovulating, but I'm still very happy to have confirmation that my body seems to know how to do it.

Okay, now here's a confession: We're not going to have sex tonight or tomorrow. The reason for this, even though I know it's not politically correct to say, is that I'm not-so-secretly hoping for a girl. It's not AT ALL that I don't want a boy eventually. I do! I would love to have both a boy and a girl. And really, I want a healthy baby, above all else, of course. But if I'm honest with myself, I think that having a girl first would be a little easier for me. I was a little girl at one time, after all, and I just feel like I could relate to a little girl a tiny bit better than a little boy — at least during my first crack at parenting. (I'm thinking dolls and tea parties are a little more up my alley right now than trucks and basketball — pardon the stereotypes.)

My husband is cool with this plan, so we're loosely going with the Shettles Method of conceiving. Dr. Shettle's theory is based on the idea that female sperm tend to live longest, and male sperm tend to swim fastest. So if you have sex exactly when you ovulate, the male sperm have a better chance of making it to the egg first. But if you have sex three to two days before ovulation, by the time the egg drops, the male sperm may be long gone, and the longer-living female sperm will be the ones waiting around to implant.

I realize that this method isn't foolproof by any means, and that it's likely it won't work at all. I also realize that we're not even doing everything exactly as Dr. Shettles recommends. For instance, if we were following his method to the letter, we should've stopped having sex three days before I ovulate (a couple of days ago, it turns out), and I'm only giving myself a day or two between sex and ovulation. But I figure, we're not going to go crazy trying for a girl, we're just going to try to tip the scales a little bit in favor of conceiving a girl. We might as well give it a shot, you know? The only downside to this method is that by not having sex when I'm actually ovulating, I may not conceive at all. So, I'm only going to try this method for a couple of months, because I don't have a ton of patience — and really, I would be thrilled to get pregnant with a healthy baby, no matter the gender, sooner rather than later.

So, we'll see. Our last try was last night, and now I guess we wait it out to see if I get my period. I'm not going to get my hopes up. It was just our first try. Okay, maybe my hopes are up a little.