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My new ob-gyn said I could take an over-the-counter prenatal vitamin or she offered to give me a prescription for one. I opted for the prescription kind (they usually have a little more folic acid). And now that we'll be officially trying in a matter of days, I went to pick up the vitamins. I also picked up a DHA supplement (an omega-3 fatty acid that's been shown to boost brain development in babies). Yay — exciting stuff.

This actually wasn't the first time I went to get prenatal vitamins, though. I bought some over-the-counter ones a few months ago, but that time I felt a little weird about buying them. I think because we were a few months away from trying to get pregnant, I felt kind of like a poser getting the prenatal vitamins. And the worst part was, the guy at the cash register at GNC didn't make it any easier.

"Are you pregnant?" GNC guy asked as he looked at my purchase while ringing me up.

"No," I answered. Who asks that? To a stranger?

"I'm trying," I added. Why I divulged more information, I do not know. I guess I felt the need to explain to this guy — who I will never see again in my life — why I was buying prenatal vitamins when I wasn't pregnant. And that should've been the end of it. But it wasn't.

"Have you been trying for a long time or are you just starting?" he asked.

Yeah, GNC guy, I'm really going to share the particulars of my fertility and sex life with you.

But then of course, I did.

"We're just starting," popped out of my mouth. Why couldn't I have just said I'd rather not talk about it? Clearly I had not worked out a game plan for how to answer questions about my pregnancy timetable (I'm still working on that, by the way). He smiled as he gave me my receipt.

"Good luck!" he shouted, as I walked out the door.

Awkward. GNC guy knows I'm having lots of sex with my husband.

Even though this encounter weirded me out, and I was not at all interested in talking with GNC guy about my sex life (even if he was encouraging!), I have to admit, that's pretty much what I'm doing now on this blog. I'm talking to people I don't know about this very personal time. In fact, I'm reminded of this anew every time a co-worker asks me a question about the blog. It even sort of startles me when someone brings it up because it forces me to remember that I'm telling this intimate information to the world. Still, somehow it's different when I'm writing it down in this context. Because this blog isn't for the GNC guy or other passing strangers, it's for people like me — women who are trying to get pregnant (or who are thinking about getting pregnant). And I hope this will be a place where we can talk about how the process is going — a place where we can share our experiences, trade stories, vent when things aren't going well, and ultimately, feel hopeful. GNC guys need not apply.