I always liked Gisele Bundchen—because she has a not-so-perfect nose. See, I have a not-so-perfect nose. But, since she’s become a mom, I have to say, I’m not really fond of her parenting advice, that, well, kind of tries to make me feel bad—tries. If you recall she blasted moms like me, who (please don’t berate me in the comments section) didn’t breastfeed.
"Some people here [in the U.S.] think they don't have to breastfeed, and I think, are you going to give chemical food to your child when they are so little? I think there should be a worldwide law, in my opinion, that mothers should breastfeed their babies for six months."
Now the supermodel takes a stab at families, well, kind of close to her own. In an interview with the New York Post, Bundchen said: “My son is so beautiful, I love him so much. But before you have children, you have got to make sure you've got a great man. You can't settle for less . . . someone you love, and someone who has the same beliefs."
In case you’re unaware, Bundchen’s husband, Patriots quarterback Tom Brady, doesn’t just have one son, Benjamin, with his supermodel girlfriend—he has a FIRST son, John, with his ex-girlfriend, actress, Bridget Moynahan. What exactly is Bundchen saying about, well, her stepson’s mom, then?
Moynahan was pregnant when I was pregnant and she had her son a week before I had JD. She gave an interview to Harper's Bazaar in which she spoke candidly about her pregnancy: "It's golden and it's tough and it was f*cked up. But now I have a child, and it's the best thing in the world." I second that.
My question to Bundchen is, why aren’t you holding your husband accountable? Fine, the relationship between Brady and Moynahan didn’t last, but she still had a baby by herself and was it her fault she got pregnant and didn’t have magic powers that would predict the man she was in a committed relationship with was going to leave, marry a supermodel and have another kid?
My son’s father is married and has a son who was born three years and one week after JD. When I was five-weeks-pregnant, we decided to keep our baby, but when I was 11-weeks-pregnant, I went to my sonogram alone. I walked down an unpredictable, unconventional path solo with a swelling belly under my shirt and no ring on my finger. My son’s father courted his ex, got engaged, bought a condo, got married, went on a honeymoon, got pregnant and had a baby. It’s picture perfect! It was the easy, stress-free way! Textbook. But, ya know what, I kind of feel like JD and I are perfect too. I also feel like nothing is perfect and that imperfections are gorgeous and interesting. Textbooks have typos.
I’m not exactly bothered by the concept that it’s nice to have a mom and dad in the house, because I mean, what is wrong with having a mom and dad in the house? Or just a mom? A solo dad, grandparents or a cool uncle? I am annoyed that Gisele put everything on the woman, or well, the single moms out there. Hello Gisele! You are living in a modern family yourself! Your hot husband has a son, that you’ve said you love as your own.
Trust me, I didn’t set out to be a single mom. It wasn’t something I dreamed about as a little girl. I dreamed about a white dress too—and cooking dinner while my husband played blocks in the living room with my child. I never fantasized about five-minute showers and JD simultaneously saying, “I finger painting with your face stuff, Mama”—this morning I opened the shower curtain to find him making a mess on the mirror with my Olay day lotion—and you know what, I laughed! I smiled! I told him he was a brilliant artist.
More from Moynahan: "When you're suddenly pregnant and no one is standing by your side, even if you're in your 30s, it's a hard conversation...I'm a traditional girl, and I believe in marriage, and I just always thought that's the way I'd be doing this. For a moment, it was hard for me to accept that this was the way I was going to have a family. I've had to recognize that there are just so many different options today.”
Please share your comments. Do Gisele Bundchen’s comments on parenting offend you?