How many times during the year are you in your child’s school? How many times have you been invited inside the classroom to celebrate the good, as opposed to deal with the bad? Could you articulate what your child is supposed to learn this year? Do you know the academic goals? The discipline procedures? The expectations being set for your child – or more importantly if any expectations are being set for your child? These are the questions I grapple with every week along with my fellow Parents Association (PA) CO-President, other leadership parents, our administration and our teachers as we try to figure out how to create a strong bridge between home and school and engage our parents in a real way.
One thing I’ve learned since being involved in my daughters’ large NYC public school is that there is a disconnect between the amount the information teachers think they are giving parents and the amount of information parents feel they are receiving. After attending the Parenting Magazine Mom Congress this past week and meeting women from all 50 states plus the District of Columbia, I know that our school is not unique in trying to figure out this dilemma. The common theme is that parents want concrete, clear goals for their children. They want to understand how material is being presented – particularly in math – and they want to know how to help at home. It’s impossible to be a partner in anything, let alone your child’s education if you don’t what you’re working toward.
What do parents need from teachers and administrators to be effective partners?
- Clear curriculum goals for the year. Just like in college when everyone gets a syllabus why shouldn’t elementary schools kids have the same framework for their learning over the course of the year? Of course teachers should have wiggle room, and the ability to update as the year goes on, but seeing a roadmap for the year gives everyone a plan they can refer to when goals seem elusive.
- Celebrate the positive. Invite parents in the classroom for end of curriculum open houses so parents can review their child’s body of work, see the work of all the kids, connect with each other, and feel a part of the classroom.
- Curriculum mornings or evenings on a grade wide basis to talk about literacy and math. Put materials in non-educator speak, demystify acronyms and take questions.
- Monthly parent newsletter or email from the teacher for curriculum updates. Clear, short and to the point. Teachers seem to think that kids tell their parents everything that is going on in the classroom – they don’t, not by a long shot.
- It’s not a bridge unless both sides are willing to meet halfway. So parents – don’t come in angry, defensive and entitled. I’m not talking about when things have gone very wrong and a child was harmed – I mean stand up and have a conversation about issues before they turn into debacles. Articulate what you need and where you are coming from without boiling over with anger. Engagement works both ways. We throw a huge teacher appreciation dinner midway through the year as well as provide dinner for the teachers during parent/teacher conferences. These events are filled with homemade food, a lot of thought and hours of volunteer time, but it’s important to let teachers know we value their time and hard work.
In the end it always boils down to clear communication. The more parents know the more they can help. And if the grownups can’t figure out how to talk to each other how can we ever expect our children to do better?
This post was originally written for the White House Champions of Change series.
Rebecca Levey is the Queen Bee and co-founder of the recently launched KidzVuz.com. KidzVuz is a community of user-generated videos by and for tweens where they create reviews and comment about the products and media they love. For the last 4 years she has been a blogger and freelance writer. Her personal blog, Beccarama.com, is where she writes about parenting, travel, technology, education, and all things NYC. She writes weekly about social media at Mom Blog Magazine as their Social Media Editor. She is the founder and co-host of The Blogging Angels Podcast, a weekly show about women in social media and the blogosphere. She is also a member of the Yahoo! Mother Board.
Her blog posts have been nationally syndicated through McClatchy/Tribune and in Education blog in The Washington Post.
She is incredibly proud to be the 2011 New York State delegate to the Mom Congress in Washington DC where she spent 4 days listening and talking about her passion, education. When she’s not writing, recording, editing and moderating she is the Co-President of the PTA at her twin daughters’ NYC public elementary school where she tries not to run with scissors or embarrass her daughters too much.