To my girls:
With one in grade school, one in middle school and one starting college, I feel like there is so much to do to help you all succeed.
What I will do to help – I will help prepare you for school by making sure you have the proper supplies, lots of sleep, time to do your homework in a calm environment and healthy meals. This may sound obvious but by just doing these simple things every day – you know what a value I place on your schooling. You will not be allowed to stay up late, attend a midnight premier of a movie opening, or be involved in activities that interfere with your schooling. It is your top priority at this stage of your life – remember that.
I will be there at PTA meetings, school functions and every parent teacher conference. I realize that this may be thrilling when you’re in grade school and positively mortifying when you’re in middle school but I want you – and your teachers – to know I view our relationship as a partnership. If they need help from me, they can call me and I will do the same with them.
What I won’t do – is helicopter parent you. I won’t sit there and hold your hand as you do your homework. It’s important that you learn to work for your successes in life and if you don’t work – then you fail. I won’t hold back the learning process by micro managing your every move. I will help if you have questions but only after I feel you have exhausted every attempt to figure it out on your own. I won’t schedule so many activities that you feel worn out and exhausted every day. I hope you feel happy to come home, relax and recharge.
And to my oldest, even in college you need your mom. I will always be here to help in any way I can. I am not so old I can’t remember those college days and how much stress there is between working and school and trying to make it on your own.
I hope you all treasure this time of your life and know that your dad and I are always there to help and cheer you on. We are so proud!
Shayne McCaslin is the 2011 Mom Congress delegate from Arizona. She is the mother of three and a dedicated volunteer and educational advocate. This post is part of the Mom Congress Back-to-School Blog-a-thon. Please join us!