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Did I Ask You for Your Opinion?...I Didn't Think So

I have a thing for shirts with sayings on them. Not typically though. Normally, I actually hate those things, but since being pregnant I love it. People stare at me anyway, so they might as well have something clever to read.

Since day 1 I've been calling my growing baby "Spawnie", so I was sold when I saw this "Alien on Board" tee-shirt from Spegg Wear. I got one and started wearing it the moment my bump started to show.



Now every time I go out with it on I get compliments. I've worn it to my OB appointments and to the mall. People always say they love it, and compliment me on how original and funny it is... Which explains why I mistook the woman taking my order behind the burger counter as saying my shirt was "adorable" instead of what was actually calling "horrible."

With a big smile on my face I said "Thank you!" And patted my belly.

"Thank you?" She questioned my reaction, obviously annoyed that I didn't get her insult. That's when I realized I misheard her and got the rhyming -- yet total opposite -- words confused.

"Well, I call her my little Alien so it's cute." I tried to explain myself, but also make it seem like I had really meant what I said: "thank you."

"How far along are you?" She asked me. I told her I was 30 weeks, or about 7 months.

"Really?" She questioned my honesty. "But you're so small!"

She then looked me up and down as if I was the ugliest, most sickling person she had ever seen.

"Yes, well I'm tall." I tried to defend myself.

"I don't know..." she pressed on; hinting at some implication that I couldn't quite put my finger on.

Really lady, I'm about to order a bacon cheeseburger and fries. Trust me, I'm not starving my baby.

I wanted to say that, but I didn't. I held my tongue and ordered my meal. And I stayed there to ate it all, subconsciously trying to prove myself.

I don't know what it is with people. Since when did it become ok to question someone about her weight? Especially when she's pregnant. And since when did we start considering ourselves professional medical advisors for each other?

I know comments won't get any better once my baby's born. I can only imagine looks people must get from the beginning. The "Why are you out with a baby that young?" look. The "I can't believe you're feeding your baby formula" look, or the "Why don't you breastfeed your baby in the car?" look.

Then as your kids get older there's the: "Why don't you control your child?" face and the "You let them leave the house in THAT?" glance.

Unfortunately we live in a highly judgmental world. I just hope that no matter how many times I get questioned or stared down, I never resort to the other side of the fence and make a woman feel as foolish as I felt when all I wanted to do was look cute and order a burger.

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