When I have some time to kill, I like to tool around the divorce channel on Huffingtonpost.com. There's usually a fun combo of tabloidy celeb stuff and good, interesting stories and blogs. But a post I read this morning from Nina Collins called "Why Remarry?" left me feeling entirely depressed...not exactly in a personal way...more in a "Man, that is a really sad way of approaching life after divorce." There is so little hope or joy in what she describes. Sure, there are a lot of great things about being single and about living your life the way you want. It's easier in so many ways, especially if you're lucky enough to have a co-parent who does his share (as it seems she does). And obviously, when you've had one unsuccessful marriage, it can be very hard to imagine ever opening yourself up to the possibility of that kind of pain again. Keep future connections at a moderate level, and you've still got a decent buffer. But one of the most wonderful, awe-inspiring perks of simply being alive is getting to share that life with someone—and in a deep, I-can't-believe-I-get-to-do-THIS-with-someone-as-amazing-as-YOU kind of way. Is it scary? Sure is. Worth it? 100 percent.
Take a look at her piece, then let me know what you think—and what you're hoping for the next time around. xo, Evie