The Short of It
One mom's viral experiment about what kids may be thinking and what parents are missing when they're using technology may prompt you to put down your phone right now.
On Monday, Brandie Wood, a mom of 2-year-old twin sons Blaine and Rylie, posted this status update on Facebook:
"Today I did an experiment, I watched my boys play. As I sat quietly in the corner of the room I tallied how many times they looked at me for various reasons: to see if I saw their cool tricks, to seek approval or disapproval for what they were doing, and to watch my reactions. I couldn't help but wonder if I was on some sort of technology what message would I have been sending? 28 times my angels would have wondered if the World Wide Web was more important than them. 28 times my boys would have not received the attention most adults are searching for. 28 times my loves would have questioned if they were alone emotionally. 28 times my kids would have been reassured that who you are online is what really matters. [sic]"
Wood goes on to offer a plea to parents to put down their technology and focus on their families, but more than anything, be cognizant of what messages you are sending your kids when you're on your phone or tablet. Incredibly, this thought-provoking observation has been shared more than 58,000 times to date.
Wood's observations back up a recent study that found one-third of kids feel unimportant when their parents are on their phones. She also confirms my secret fear: that I spend too much time glued to my laptop and phone, and I'm missing important moments with my children.
As a mom who makes a living online, it's tough to strike the right balance. I try really hard to put my technology down and focus 100 percent on my kids several times a day. Still, I feel a lot of guilt, especially after reading Wood's post about how my children may perceive my screen time.
How about you? Has Wood's post inspired you to unplug around your kids?